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Al Fatihah

Let's take a moment of silence and recite Al Fatihah for my relatives who passed away from a traggic car accident over at Jalan Kebangsaan a few nights ago.

Al Fatihah

You think you know, but you have no idea

Funny how one claims that one knows me and said things that clearly shows how little knowledge one knows of me. “I know you Muaz” – correction, you do NOT know me, it’s obvious from the things that you said that you do not know me, you probably only know OF me; an “idea” of me that you have in your head and perceive as the true me. Never claim you know a person if you really don’t just so that you think you could get your points across.

It’s like a typical thing here; you know when people say “ah kawanku tu”; kawan? Friends? A classmate of 3 years who I never spoke to and I never really know... I wouldn’t call him/her a friend, but an acquaintance rather.

So you’re probably studying in the same place that I am, seen me a couple of times, heard of me or whatever – none of which could serve as “knowing” me. And if you REALLY do know me, why bother disguising yourself as “guest”? Some of my own real friends disagree with me every now and then – because hey that’s life – not everyone agrees with you. If you REALLY know me, you would’ve revealed who you are.

And now wow, using my social network against me? Probably using that to humiliate me? To be honest, I’m not embarrassed with the fact that I have more girls than guys in my group of friends. Funny that in this era, some still think highly negative of people with different genders hanging out as friends. Hanging out with more girls than guys does not make me a girl, but rather it makes me more of a man. Why? It helps me understand women (their feelings, their perceptions, their expectations from men) – a trait that I doubt I will acquire if I ONLY hang out with guys. And really, if you really DO know me; you would have known that I do have male friends. I was brought up surrounded by girls; it is inevitable that I click with them very well. And really, what does my social networking has anything to do with the things that I say?

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Hah. It just got to me now. I’m reading this book called “A New Earth: awakening to your life’s purpose” by Eckhart Tolle. The book talks about the concept of “Pain-bodies” in humans. It’s a somewhat complicated concept but I shall sum it up by defining it as “a negative ego-driven emotion that stays in a person from a particular or a series of events”. The pain-body as per its name suggest, seeks pain, it’s not part of that person but it lives within the person. Many live their life controlled by their pain-bodies and not realising that their true self is thus “unconscious”. It takes a person to be fully conscious to understand that the “thing” that controls them is not them.

So anyway... why am I talking about this? The pain-body seeks pain - - from others. It feeds on the negative energy that it creates. It normally waits for a particular event that could trigger a fight and then all hell broke loose. Blog haters (in general) for example, they read someone’s blog regardless of the fact that the blog contains ideas that completely oppose that of their own; the pain-body of the hater collects this energy (negative energy created for reading things that he/she disproves of) and waits for a particular event; maybe a particular post, to finally declare war. That is when the hater leaves hatred comments – at this stage, comments are normally directed to the post.

Interestingly enough, albeit weirdly, the hater would normally wait for the author of the blog to respond to his/her negative comment, they would come to visit just to see if the author has anything to say. And the author finally spoke, clarifying his/her post maybe – in a rather civil manner.

This ticks off the hater’s pain-body even more, it doesn’t want peace, it wants war – not until the author gets upset or probably break down or probably even shuts down his/her blog – will the hater’s pain-body be satisfied. At this point, allegations will arise. It knows that criticisms on the post is not enough to put the author down, it will then stray away from the whole point of the “fight” to something entirely out of context – maybe something personal, if it doesn’t know anything about the author, it will then create allegations that they perceive to be true. Like in my case here... my social networking... and then me using thesaurus? Really, what do those have anything to do with anything?

You can see a lot of these kinds of things in fights – relationship fights mostly – it always tends to stray away from the root of the problem, past mistakes are always brought up just to heat up the argument.

Is it weird for me to see this whole thing as fascinating? It’s a great real life example for my reading. Hehe.

I said it before and I’m going to say it again; really if you don’t like reading what you read here... why exactly are you still here? There are a lot of blogs out there that I disagree with, quite a number of them are even my own friends’ blogs; but you know what I do? I don’t leave hate comments – I just don’t bother reading them. It’s that easy.

“A New Earth: Awakening to your life’s purpose” by Eckhart Tolle – it’s a good book, costs about 21 bucks over at Best Eastern.

p/s - I don't use thesauruses, not my fault if you don't get my intertexuality or my choice of vocabs.

With love,
Muaz Al Rashid

P 2 Fake

Rumour has it that an attention seeking twat has been giving out fake email/MSN addresses of our famous P2F contestants including its host, Zayn Sabri.

Innocent fans are chatting with an attention whore who spreads more ridiculous stories about the contestants and host; sexual rumours being the prime talk.

Isn't this sick and one of the most disgustingly pathetic thing you've ever heard? Be careful with the contact details that you receive people. The P2F's contacts can be rightfully obtained only from a number of reliable sources; the contenstants themselves (duh) and Pelangi FM among others.

Muaz Al Rashid - The things people do for fame huh?

Excess

People have different mindset... thoughts... ideas.... and inevitably different perspectives. I do NOT expect everyone who came across this blog to agree with me; that is not how life rolls. What's life without its ups and down ey?

Which is WHY everytime I post some of MY opinions, I APOLOGISE beforehand. There's always a warning. Yes, I know that some of my posting could easily offend - but I post them anyway - why, you ask? Well... for one thing; it is my blog, and secondly, if I don't get what I want to say out in the open, it'll just kill me... and it makes me feel fake for pretending to agree with what I disagree with.

Call me cruel, call me blunt, call me obnoxious, but I get my point across, you might think I'm rude, others might just feel that I'm honest. As I said, people have differing opinions, what I think is right, you may think is wrong. You seriously believe that I would actually foolishly think that everyone is going to agree with me?

Hated blog? I'd rather be hated for being who I am than be liked for being who I am not.

To clear things up; I never have anything against women or men with curves; BUT when it comes to the point of being unhealthy, that is when I draw the line. Particularly with a lot of men (many of whom I know) who keep pressurising their girlfriends or wives to look good but barely say that to themselves. It annoys me how a lot of guys are like that, do they really have the rights to pressurise their significant others for being fat when they themselves are sporting a beer belly and couldn't care less about it?

Again, I APOLOGISE if my opinions offend thee... But really, if you do not like what you read here.. then why visit?

p/s - My look is more metrosexual than it is feminine... there's a clear distinction between both. I do not walk around in a skirt. ew.

Sincerely,
Muaz Al Rashid

Help them

Have you ever been to several parts of the country where you hear stories or news regarding a famous character - - and unfortunately that character is mentally ill?

I actually know of several places (Berakas, Burong Pingai Berakas, Delima, Gadong, etc.) that have these infamous characters. They just roam the place, whilst not causing any violence, they may at times cause public disturbances; disturbing people at restaurants in most cases.

I was out having lunch with the sister in Gadong when one character decided to enter the restaurant, sit, and shout nonsense at the top of his lungs.

I honestly have no qualms about their presence, but I do feel that these people need help. Where are their families? Or even where are the relevant authorities? Their presence at these places are quite known, it’s not like I want these people captured, but these people should be at a more appropriate and conducive centre.

Muaz Al Rashid - They need help.

The truth men need to know

WARNING: Personal opinions that may offend. Author apologises in advance for any offence caused.

I was out the other day looking for parking and I saw this (possibly) 40-something year old guy with a very unmistakable beer-belly sporting a tight short-sleeved t-shirt that’s tucked into jeans. Then it hit me, a lot of men tend to not realise (or refuse to realise) that they’ve aged (or gain weight).

Quite a number of men have this tendency to disregard their weight-gains and aging. So let me be blunt here and point some things out.

The shirt that you wore 10 or 20 years ago may have looked good on you then, but that does not mean it looks good on you now. Stop trying to fit yourself into something that you could barely fit into anymore – even though they’re stretchable. Measure up, get the right size.

Again, who said only women’s clothes have seasons? Men’s too... but not necessarily the design, rather on how you wear it. Look up men’s magazines and check out how they work with the clothes to give you a better picture.

Some though are undeniably outdated. Still sporting them belly-bottoms and afro? Are you going to a 60’s themed gala? Can you feel the sarcasm? Why do a lot of men tend to disregard this fact? It may look good then, but now it’s just a joke.

Weight gains - - it baffles me how some men are absolutely oblivious to this fact. Dude, you’ve gained a lot - - and no that doesn’t mean you’ve gained “muscle” and stop using the reason “happy wah~” - - you’re not all that anymore. Stop trying to fit into something you can’t fit anymore, get something bigger - - or better yet – hit the gym.

Muaz Rashid – stick to the basics.

Excess Caffeine

So yes, I'm tired of replying on the shoutbox itself.. eheheh.. yes people I'm back, and sorry for the extremely tardy replies to your shoutouts

and uh... Guest (Hj Gazali, Airport), need that I tell you that the shoutbox is not a chatbox, I don't automatically reply to your messages (not that I could if I wanted to anyway, I don't get a thing you're saying)..

nevertheless.. it's good to be back.

love,
Muaz Al Rashid

Parents and Children

“If you have young children, give them help, guidance and protection to the best of your ability, but even more important, give them space – space to be.

They come into this world through you, but they are not “yours.” The belief that “I know what’s best for you” may be true when they are very young, but the older they get, the less true it becomes. The more expectations you have of how their life should unfold, the more you are in your mind instead of being present for them.

Eventually, they will make mistakes, and they will experience some form of suffering, as all humans do. In fact, they may be mistakes only from your perspective. What to you is a mistake may be exactly what your children need to do or experience.

Give them as much help and guidance as you can, but realize that you may also at times have to allow them to make mistakes, especially as they being to reach adulthood. At times, you may also allow them to suffer. Suffering may come to them out of the blue or it may come as the consequence of their own mistakes”

(Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth; Awakening to your life’s purpose, 2005)


This quote by Tolle in his amazing book (which I’m currently reading) intelligently explains the situation of many children and parents around the world. I’ve been meaning to blog about this, months ago but barely have the chance to compose it due to work and school pressure.

I was online with an acquaintance I met over at the first KB Bloggers earlier this year (or was that late last year? Hahah). We went on talking from how he was surprised to see me on the news to how his parents had this greatest desire for him to join the armed forces (I know - - so incoherent, not even poles apart, I don’t remember how we eventually got there).

His parents really want him to join the army, they even brought and filled out a form for him to join the youth cadets; he got through and just had to sit for the exam. The night prior to the exams, he burst into tears and begged his parents to not let him join as that isn’t his ambitions. Eventually his parents gave in.

A lot of parents tend to see their children as heirs as opposed to individuals with their own characteristics and dreams.

“I may look like you, but I’m sorry, I am just not you”, most of the things (as per the above event) that parents want their children to achieve are the things that they themselves want – and in many cases – the dreams that they themselves did not manage to fulfil. Please do not force your children to fulfil your own dreams – it is great if your own children have the same dreams, but if they don’t – as per the above – it would not make them happy. Which do you prefer; to see your dreams achieved by your son or to see your son live an unhappy life? Don’t be selfish, you had your chance – you live your life – let your son live his.

I’m not saying all this because I do not appreciate what parents (or my parents, in fact) have done to help me go through life. But at some point, you just have to realise that you need to let go; birds let their offspring fly away to live their life – you should do the same. What you have done so far to guide them is good enough, but never see them as the younger you. Every individual is different, let them be who they truly are.

I know it is hard, especially for mothers, but it is just the fact of life. Your children need guidance, NOT control.

Muaz Rashid – live your life.

Back Babies

wohooo... exams over (still have my research proposal due on the 10th - but whatever)..

I AM BACK BABIES!!

Muaz Rashid